Who are you?

So today is the national Day without a Gay and I'm struggling with whether to head to work or not. I have a ton of work to do (being Christmas and all) and the church is very gay friendly. What statement do I make and who hears it if I take the day. The only person that is really effected is me, sometimes the church does more to support gay rights than I do....hmmm. I suppose I'll head in and talk to the bosses and see what they think.

The real reason I am writing today is because I have a friend who just might be an idiot. (And saying that raises all sorts of questions about who is going to read this and what kind of bridges I might burn.) This is the second showing of her "true self." 

This is probably less about her and more about who I thought she was and how disappointed that she isn't the strong woman I like to surround myself with (hey hey K & K.) The first time that she made me think, "what?!?" was when she said that she thought "women belonged at home taking care of the family and my husband should take care of me. That's just how I was raised." (and if I allow myself I will ramble about how annoying it is when people hide behind the statement "That's just how I was raised" to justify their bigotry, stupidity, hate, etc. etc....but I won't.)

Last night she said something that offended me even more.

"You're not doing that gay thing tomorrow are you?"  

What I should have said was, "Oh you mean protest the fact that as a more stable gay couple we have less rights then the craziness you like to call a relationship."

What I did say was, "By gay thing you me a Day without a Gay?"

"Yeah that."

"Not sure yet, I might."

"Ugh, I hate people like you. Go ahead hurt the economy more. You're not doing anyone any good. I think it's dumb," she says as she rolls her eyes.

***Ok at this point I think what the hell are you talking about the economy, Ms. Miss the Point (or should that be Miss The Point...oooh her fun new drag name.) If I take the day it will be a sick day as will most gays...and probably (if I know my gays) go buy something.***

I ask her, "You're part of a union, right?" 

"Yes"

"If the union, say took away your vacation days and decided to strike, would you continue to work?" 

"Well no I wouldn't work."

"So why don't you think of this as a Gay Strike, except that instead of vacation we are actually protesting not having the same rights as you."

"Well whatever," she says dismissively. Which was probably a good thing cause the Larry crazy train was gearing up to run her ass over.

She doesn't get it and my feelings are a little hurt because her statement says as much about how she sees Chris & I's relationship as it does about her own ignorance.

 

That was a fun little rant...I might like this blogging thing. 

Well I have to get ready to go to work (and come home shortly there after.)